米雪的樂与淚 |
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Michelle's tears and joy |
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天意弄人,米雪正值拍攝《女人最痛》之時,卻遇上自己一生中的最痛。今年 2月 16日,尹志強不幸病逝,米雪向劇組請假整理情緒,一天後旋即投入工作。 「當然我最痛就是親人離世,好象我男友離世。」但是再痛也得面對,米雪在《生命美學》一書中勉勵大家:「面對痛苦,所有老掉牙的人生觀和大道理都派不上場,好像被人摑一巴掌,你必然會痛,我們只可以接受這個痛,不能說堅強就不會痛。面對病痛、死亡也是一樣,流淚、擔憂是人之常情,但我們在痛苦中還可以保持樂觀。」——節錄自《生命美學》第四章:迎接疾苦 Life's cruel twist of fate, during Michelle's filming of <<Beauty knows no Pain>>, she encounters one of her most painful period in her life. On 16 February this year, Yin ZhiJiang passed away from his illness, Michelle took leave from the filming to settle her emotions, and returned the very next day to continue filming. "The most painful time I would encounter would be the death of my love ones, for example, my boyfriend who recently passed away." However, regardless of the intensity of the pain, we will still have to face it, From the book <<Life's Aesthetics>>, Michelle encourages everyone with : [Dealing with pain, all the theories about dealing with life and death will not apply here, it is for example, if you get slapped by someone, you will feel the pain. We can only accept the pain, it does not mean if you are strong, you will not feel the pain. Face the pain, facing death is the same time, tears, worries are all part of being human. However in the midst of this pain, we can still maintain a positive attitude towards life.] -- Referring to <<Life's Aesthetics>> chapter four: Accepting the pain.
米雪續說:「不知是不是我性格樂天,生老病死是人生必經,事情發生是有心理準備。二十幾歲那時爸爸離世,還不會想傷心,到幾年前我媽媽不在了,也是好痛,年輕時要賺錢顧家,現在什麽都安定了,想給他們有好日子過,過天倫樂,誰知好象已沒機會了!
」 Michelle continued with [I am not sure if it is because I am an optimist, sickness and death are part of life, I was mentality prepared for this event to happen. My father passed away when I was twenty, back then, I don't even think about grieving, until a few years ago, my mother passed away, it was also very painful for me. When I was younger, I had to make money to feed the family, now that everything has stabilized, I wanted to give them a better life, but it is not possible any more!]
It is when everyone is worried
if Michelle is able to physically and mentality carry on, Michelle's
body language seems to be assuring everyone that "I am okay", she is
thankful to all her colleagues who showed their concern for her, she
said [I know my colleague loves me, I don't want them to worry about me,
to those who saw my performance during the filming of the serial will
know that I am okay, don't worry about me. ] Michelle has been
courageous and rational in facing the loss :[Even if I remain at home,
take off for a week, then what? That doesn't stop me from feeling the
loss, I will still have to face it sooner or later, if that is the case,
why don't I return back to work? Reason number one, work can fill up my
time and my mind, number two, I want to finish my work as soon as
possible. To me, one day's rest is more than enough!]
此時此刻,工作的而且確是良藥,除了暫忘傷痛,遵守作為演員的專業精神對她來說同樣重要,她說:「私事同工作不可以放在一起,我盡量不想麻煩人,我一個人休息,好多人要等我,其他同事都會有工作等著做,人家是沒責任分擔你的問題,好象有人遲到,要成班人等就不好了!總之盡量不要麻煩人。」雖然米雪心仍在痛,但還能顧己及人,確實令人欽佩。 人非草木,表面的堅強,其實掩飾不了內心的軟弱。米雪只會在不影響其他人的情況下獨自悲傷:「我個人好樂觀,是他(尹佬)走之前,我們已經有共識,他只是要我開心,所以他不會擔心我,因為他知道我會好容易適應。」米雪嘗試用不同的角度去解釋尹佬的離開,希望能令自己釋懷,她說:「其實我覺得他現在好象還在一樣,只是去了個好遠的地方,以前我們兩個相處方式都好自由,例如我會出去一個月拍戲,會打電話給他,有個心就得。而他又好忙,我又好忙,我們的性格就是這樣,所以結婚對我們來講只是形式,一紙婚書對我們沒意思。我們又不是要小朋友,又不是要分身家,兩個人一齊只要對方開心,我們就是喜歡這種生活,他知我好忙,所以他一點都不擔心我。」 During the time, work is the remedy, other than temporarily forgetting the pain, her professionalism towards her work as an actress is equally important. She said : [ Personal life and work should not be placed together, I try my best not to trouble others, if I take the time off, there will be many others who will have to wait for me in other to complete their work, my colleagues also have their work to complete, no one is obligated to share the burdens of your problems, for example, if someone is late, that will cause the entire group to wait, and that is not good! Whatever the case, it is best not to trouble others.] Even though Michelle is hurting inside, she is still able to spare a thought for others, well deserving of one's respect for her. We are just human, no matter how strong we appear on the outside, we cannot hide pain inside. Michelle will only allow herself to grieve when she is alone, so as to not affect others. [ I am an optimist, it was him (boyfriend), before he died, we had an agreement, he just wants me to be happy so that he doesn't have to worry about me, because he knows that I will be able to cope just fine.] Michelle tries many ways to explain the reason of her boyfriend's passing, hoping to find closure and release from it, she said : [ Actually I feel as if he is still around, just that he is somewhere far away, in the past, we had a very relax and easy relationship, if I am gone for a month for work, I will call him, as long as we love each other, it will do. Furthermore, he is also very busy and so am I, our characteristic is as such, therefore, marriage to us is just a formality, a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper to us, it hold no meaning. We are not children, we are also not after each other's assets, both of us just want each other to be happy, we both like this type of lifestyle, he knows that I am very busy, that is why he doesn't worry about me.]
尹佬跟米雪相戀多年,兩人互相信任關懷,只欠形式上的一紙婚書 Michelle and her boyfriend have been in love for many years, both trusted and cared for each other, the only thing lacking is a marriage certificate.
在尹志強的惜別會上,米雪深深地向尹佬的遺照鞠躬告別,深情難捨盡在不言中
擬開公司助失業人 Concentrate on her career The deceased has been laid to rest, the living should continue to live life with a positive attitude. Michelle continues to work, using working to fill up her time, as for her love life, she can only resign to her fate, she says : [ Nowadays I won't ponder on such things, just leave it to fate, let heaven decide. Now I do not needs this, I am most happy at work, even though I can be very busy, to the point of not getting enough rest, but I really enjoyed it, I will find happiness is sorrow, happiness in my hectic schedule. ] Other than making money from acting, Michelle continues with her charity work, she said : [ I always wanted start a company dealing in recycling, recycle stuffs that others do not want, repair or recondition it and give it to those who needs it. Recycle people, those who have lost their jobs, retrain them so that they can go back into the workforce, as long as it helps people, I would want to do it. ] You really have to admire Michelle, she never allowed herself to wallow in her grief, believing in a positive attitude in living life to the fullest. From Michelle, it seems to radiate a message, telling everyone, don't be afraid of pain, be brave and face it and you will overcome it.
穿越古今不老之雪米雪自1976年以《射鵰英雄傳》打響名堂,成為香港電視史上第一代俏黃蓉,時至今日她還可以穿上古裝扮黃蓉與朱茵鬥嬌俏,超越30年艷光不減,不得不相信,心美的連外表也會越看越美。 Don in period costume, Michelle, who looks much like before in 1976 when she first shot to fame in the serial <<Condor shooting hero>>, becoming Hong Kong's first Huang Rong, Till today, she can still easily fill the role like before, one easily forgets that it has been 30 years. This proves that as long as the heart is beautiful, one's appearance will also reflect it as well.
重遇舊拍檔 2008年 (Former
acting partners 2008)
黃蓉爭仔戰 2010年
米雪扮演女強人汪海鯨,在事業搏殺期懷孕,身邊的作戰夥伴,也不知這個消息是喜還是憂 戲裏戲外承受百樣痛
戲裏戲外米雪要投入不同種類的痛,壓力不是一般人可以想像,尹佬過身時,她要接受摯愛離世的痛,同時又要投入《女人最痛》角色,感受女強人汪海鯨高齡產婦失婚之痛。 Experiencing different kind of pain in real life and reel life
In both real and reel life,
Michelle has to experience different kind of pain, the pressure of doing
so is unimaginable by most, when her boyfriend passed away, she has to
accept the pain of a love one passing away, at the same time, she has to
experience her character Wang Hai Jing's pain of a career woman who
suffered a failed marriage while she is pregnant in the serial <<Beauty
knows no pain>>. 來源:蘋果日報 日期:2010年8月1日 |
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